Feminine Energy - What the hell are we talking about?

One of the things we see constantly with the women who begin with us at Laughing Sage Wellness, is how much their conditions are tied to a way of being as a woman that denies their feminine energy. More simply put, we have found in working with thousands of you with chronic GYN conditions, that you have overly relied on your masculine energy, believing it would lead to a more successful life, and you have pressed the "mute" button on your feminine energy.

What the hell am i talking about? Love that question! We do spend an entire day teaching about these concepts - so stay tuned for that workshop in the October - however for now, just know that every one - male and female - contains aspects of both the masculine and feminine energetics. Understanding that both of these are equally powerful is an important conversation for you to be having. Luckily, there is now a scientific study proving that we're right - LOVE THAT;) Estrogen, as you will read, creates the same psychological basis for leadership and competition in women as testosterone does in men.

This of course, should beg the question in you, as a woman, as to why you are trying so much to embody the behaviors and aspects of the opposite gender when you could easily learn about and embody those which are intrinsic and biologically aligned to you already? Why we do this, ladies, has to do with the legacy of post-modern feminism and its "I can be like a man and make just as much money" ideology. However, the physical toll this has taken on women is what we deal with everyday at our midtown Manhattan center with women here and across 5 continents. Menstrual disorders are rampant, infertility rates are high, and women at shockingly young ages are taking period cessation drugs like Lybrel so they can avoid feeling "held back" by their biology. Ladies, the common denominator in this equation is our thinking as women about how we function as women.

Read on in this issue and start getting your head around how f*cking powerful you are as a woman and how powerful your inherent biochemistry sets you up to be. You don't have to give up your masculine energy - quite the opposite - what we want is for you to be twice as powerful as you are right now. Keep your masculine skills, and "unmute" your feminine energetic - you have no idea what you could create in your life if you had access to both energies! Come learn about your feminine with LSW - the planet needs you to be your full self in this moment!

Golda

When I came to Laughing Sage Wellness in late 2005 struggling with PCOS, I hadn’t had a full period in at least 6 months, I was miserably working 12 hours a day as an attorney, and I had been unintentionally celibate for the better part of a year.

Late one evening, still at the office, I spoke to Alisa Vitti about my situation. I was highly resistant to working with LSW, but she suggested that I used a technique that I still use today. She asked me to pretend that I had made the decision not to have sessions with LSW, and see how that felt in my body. I checked in with myself and my body felt tight and shut down, in other words, “normal”. Then I pretended that I had signed up for sessions at LSW. At that moment, my body felt shaky, but alive. I started to cry, which is something I hadn’t done for months. I signed up for a 6 month program that night.

I can attest to tangible results. In working with Alisa, my cycle normalized to a great extent and I began getting full periods more often. I spent less time at the office and more time having fun, including dating. I also learned how to better feed my body and feel good in my body.

But working with LSW meant more to me than just tangible results. The women at LSW brought me to my own internal labyrinth. At LSW, I began the journey toward healing my relationship with my femininity and my feminine energy. I started to incorporate and appreciate those parts of me that I had denigrated in the past. And LSW gave me a community of women who supported me in my healing journey.

Now I work only part time as an attorney and I’m spending the rest of my time doing things that I really love, like working with plus-sized women who want to feel great without dieting (Body Love Wellness), writing, performing improv, and spending time with my boyfriend and friends. I can’t imagine this journey without the support of LSW.

Coping with Bikini Season

Hello to all my gorgeous, beautiful, talented readers and happy summer!

For some of you, this is your favorite time of year - the weather's nice, the clothes are cute, and social activities abound. For others, this is a season of dread - dreading the clothes, the beach, the heat, the chafing, useless makeup, and above all, the seeming increase in eyes on your body. Believe me, having once been 5'6" and 200lbs, I understand the emotional stress summer can bring. However, I'll fill you in on a little secret. No matter what weight you are, it's an inside game - feeling emotionally happy about your body.

So here's my strategy for changing your thoughts - and it’s one I recommend you start experimenting with now - because seriously, life is way too short not to enjoy your body and who you are!!

I'm only going to suggest that you try this for the next 2 weeks ONLY - because this is an experiment, and some of you may want to go back to feeling yucky about your bodies again, so DO NOT proceed with this experiment after 2 weeks. Otherwise, we cannot be held responsible for how much you will fall in love with your thighs or your stomach;)

Consider this your official homework assignment from LSW to you.

First and foremost, STOP reading magazines - you know the ones that push your buttons - so just don't read them - donate your button-pushing subscriptions to your gym or your office's reception area.

Secondly, and again, for the next 2 weeks and 2 weeks only, every time you have a negative thought about your body, I want you to immediately scan your environment for another woman and find something beautiful about her. Go over board with how you would compliment this one thing about her - channel all that negative energy into something constructive. Practicing this multiple times daily, will increase your natural ability to do this for yourself... and PLEASE DO NOT take my word for it - experiment and see what happens!!

Transformation requires action my lovelies - so if you wanna enjoy your hot body this hot summer - get crackin' on your homework and write in to us with your results. We're here for you!

in bikini;)
alisa

"Become a skeptical observer of your thoughts....who said that every thing you think about yourself has to be true? Powerful women discern their thoughts and decide their own reality."
~ The Laughing Sage